Sad, chauvinistic, ***ist, sicko, biased, illogical, unfeeling,
generalistic, politically incorrect, no empathy, no understanding.
---- But (unfortunately) usually true.
Jim
Gregory Hall wrote:
> A recent posting by Rosalie B. solidified my opinion that women and
sailing
> just don't mix. It's a crying shame that some sailormen are burdened
with
> women that they will never be able to please but have to carry as a
burden.
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> This is what I am referring to. Rosalie B. wrote: "I would have said a
> smaller boat myself - either a CSY 33 or 37. But that's not what Bob
> wanted, and the love of a specific boat isn't rational."
>
> So, right away it seems that the poor man is viewed as irrational for
> wanting the boat he wanted, not what she wanted. Right off the bat, a
> source of contention?
>
> And then she wrote this: "I find both sailing and fi****ng a little bit
> boring. I go with Bob because I think he wants me to go, and I think he
> needs me to go. I would be just as happy at home. BUT - if I go
sailing, I
> want a boat that is comfortable to live on, not just someplace to camp
out
> on the water."
>
> Again the poor man's sailing is ruled by a spouse who doesn't even like
> sailing. She finds it 'boring.' She only tags along because she thinks
> she's wanted. She'd rather be at home but in lieu of home she wants a
> floating home. While her loyalty is admirable, being a man myself, I
think I
> would quickly come to understand that she wasn't really too keen on
sailing
> and that she was doing it only because she thought I needed her. This
would
> do little to bolster my self-esteem and it would make me feel like I had
to
> carry the entire burden when sailing. How could I really enjoy sailing
when
> I knew my mate didn't enjoy it? How could I enjoy sailing when I had to
sail
> a floating home with a new problem to address every day just to make her
> happy? Sort of ruins the experience for a man, doesn't it?
>
> And she continues: "It's not that fixed a schedule - it is only that if
we
> don't go to a marina, one of us has to cook, and that's not going to be
me.
> So I try to plan so that we can go somewhere that Bob doesn't mind going
and
> I would like to see and where we can pull in and go to a restaurant for
> dinner. A plan is not the same as a schedule."
>
> A woman who doesn't cook? What's up with that? What good is a woman who
> doesn't cook aboard a boat? The poor man! He must be a saint to put up
with
> what he puts up with. Even to the extent that he has to sail the boat to
> places just because she wants to see them or to eat at a particular
> restaurant. I couldn't live like that, could you?
>
> Then there's this gem: "I don't like outboards (we have two), and I've
never
> claimed to be a sailor - pure or any other kind."
>
> Imagine how the poor husband feels. He has a wife who proudly proclaims
> she's no sailor. In other words the entire burden is his. Not only that,
but
> along with his woman comes a lot of baggage, so much so that one cannot
see
> overtaking vessels because of the large and high pile of stuff abaft the
> helm that can't be seen over. Not only is this dangerous but it's
> unnecessary if only the woman was a sailor. A sailor would not abide
> dangerous conditions such as that, would they?
>
> My intent is NOT to pick on Rosalie because, in many ways, she's a loyal
and
> remarkable woman. But, my intent is to simply point out how women and
> sailing don't mix. It really is too bad that this is so often the case.
Is
> it any wonder that real men are so often found plying the oceans of the
> world lone handing?
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> Wilbur Hubbard
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